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\u00a0The one who first states a case seems right, until the other comes and cross-examines. — Proverbs 18:17 (NRSV)<\/strong><\/p>\n

The first time I came across this verse after learning how to coach someone through a conflict and provide mediation, I thought: That is so true! We often don\u2019t tell the full story, minimizing our contribution to a problem and enlarging the contribution (or blame) of the other person. We need someone to draw our full story out of us. <\/em><\/p>\n

Similarly, each person involved in a conflict typically has a different view of what the problem is and where the fault lies. We focus entirely on the other person. Misunderstanding and our own blind spots plague our relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019m grateful that a number of quality Bible-based peacemaking organizations exist in the US, providing coaching & mediation services, as well as foundational training to help us learn how to discover our blind spots, examine our full story, and move away from a blaming, fault-finding mentality. Many countries do not have these precious resources!<\/p>\n

(See the category “Peacemaking Organizations” for an introduction to a few of these excellent organizations.)<\/p>\n

Some of the friends I work with overseas are the FIRST to create this type of organization in their country. It\u2019s a privilege to do this pioneering work together.<\/p>\n

I long to see the day when biblical conflict resolution & peacemaking training has been incorporated into every church discipleship and leadership training program!<\/p>\n

Personal Action Step Idea<\/strong>: Have you been through a biblical peacemaking training? If not, take a first step today by checking out an organization and their offerings. Get equipped now before that next major conflict happens.<\/p>\n

Or pick up a copy of my book,\u00a0Changing Normal: Break Through Barriers to Pursuing Peace in Relationships<\/em><\/a>, and read it together with a friend. (Available on Amazon.)<\/p>\n

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