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    1. John W. de Gruchy,\u00a0Reconciliation: Restoring Justice<\/em>\u00a0(Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 2002), Kindle, chapter 1, section 2.<\/li>\n
    2. <\/span>\u5f20\u9759\uff08\u5316\u540d\uff09\uff0c\u4f5c\u8005\u91c7\u8bbf\u3002<\/li>\n
    3. <\/span>Surface-level reconciliation \u4e2d\u6587\u662f\uff1a\u8868\u9762\u4e0a\u7684\u548c\u597d (biaomian shang de hehao)<\/em>.<\/li>\n
    4. <\/span>\u9ec4\u4e3d\u8389\uff0c\u300a\u4ece\u9634\u9633\u8fa9\u8bc1\u89c2\u770b\u4e2d\u56fd\u4eba\u7684\u4eba\u9645\u548c\u8c10\u4e0e\u51b2\u7a81\u300b\uff0c\u00a0\u300a\u5fc3\u7406\u5b66\u524d\u6cbf\u300b<\/em>\u00a07 (2016): Article 847 (see p. 4 in PDF version), \u00a0https:\/\/doi.org\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2016.00847<\/a>.<\/li>\n
    5. <\/span>Heart-level reconciliation in Chinese: \u53d1\u81ea\u5185\u5fc3\u7684\u548c\u597d (fazi neixin de hehao<\/em>).<\/li>\n
    6. <\/span>Joyce L. Hocker and William W. Wilmot,\u00a0\u300a\u4eba\u9645\u51b2\u7a81\u300b<\/em>\u00a0(New York: McGraw-Hill Education, 2018), 324.<\/li>\n
    7. <\/span>\u5434\u6625\u534e\uff0c\u4f5c\u8005\u91c7\u8bbf\u3002\u6ce8\uff1a\u5f53\u5979\u63cf\u8ff0\u8fd9\u4e2a\u8fc7\u7a0b\u65f6\uff0c\u6211\u60f3\u77e5\u9053\u5979\u662f\u5426\u77e5\u9053\u65e5\u672c\u7684\u91d1\u7f2e\u5de5\u827a\uff0c\u5979\u7684\u63cf\u8ff0\u4e0e\u4e4b\u5b8c\u5168\u543b\u5408\u3002\u6211\u6ca1\u6765\u5f97\u53ca\u95ee\u5979\u3002<\/li>\n
    8. <\/span>\u6709\u8da3\u7684\u662f\uff0c\u5728\u5723\u7ecf\u4e2d\uff0c\u4e0a\u5e1d\u66f4\u591a\u5730\u901a\u8fc7\u884c\u52a8\u548c\u6545\u4e8b\u5411\u4e16\u4eba\u5c55\u793a\u548c\u597d\u7684\u6837\u8c8c\uff0c\u800c\u975e\u8a00\u8bed\u3002\u5728\u65b0\u7ea6\u4e2d\uff0c\u548c\u597d\u7684\u8bcd\u6839\uff08\u03b1\u03bb\u03bb\u03b1\u03c3\u03c3\u03bf\uff09\u5728\u5e0c\u814a\u8bed\u4e2d\u7684\u542b\u4e49\u662f\u6539\u53d8\u3001\u4ea4\u6362\u3002\u00a0allasso<\/em>) is \u201cto change\u201d or \u201cexchange.\u201d\u00a0Allasso<\/em> \u7528\u4e8e\u63cf\u8ff0\u654c\u610f\u548c\u53cb\u8c0a\u4ea4\u6362\uff0c\u5728\u4e89\u5435\u540e\u53cb\u8c0a\u5f97\u5230\u4fee\u590d\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u4e92\u4e3a\u654c\u4eba\u7684\u4e24\u4e2a\u4eba\u5efa\u7acb\u4e00\u6bb5\u597d\u7684\u5173\u7cfb\u3002\u5177\u4f53\u6765\u8bf4\uff0c\u8fd9\u4e2a\u8bcd\u88ab\u7528\u6765\u63cf\u8ff0\u4e00\u4e2a\u4eba\u4e0e\u795e\u548c\u597d\uff0c\u4e0e\u4ed6\u4eba\u548c\u597d\u3002<\/li>\n
    9. Peter Rowan, \u300a\u5ba3\u626c\u548c\u5e73\u7684\u4f7f\u8005\uff1a \u9a6c\u6765\u897f\u4e9a\u6559\u4f1a\u4f5c\u4e3a\u591a\u5143\u6587\u5316\u793e\u4f1a\u4e2d\u7684\u548c\u597d\u5a92\u4ecb\u300b\u00a0<\/em>(Eugene, OR: Wipf and Stock, 2012), 16.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\t<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n\t\t\t<\/div> \n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div> \n<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A church brother deeply offended you, so you find a reasonable excuse to step down from serving together with him on the worship team. 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